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Feeling Safe in Your Relationships

Feeling Safe in Your Relationships

Attachment Attachment Theory is a theory of human relationships that seeks to explain how the close or intimate relationships in our lives work. Put simply, attachment is about what happens when we are emotionally disorganized. And what do we need when we are...

What Do Others Think of You?

What Do Others Think of You?

Assumptions...Good and Bad The way that you feel others view you can tell you a lot about how you *actually* view yourself. You might consider yourself to be a confident person, but when you walk into a room full of people whispering, do you assume that they are...

Suck’n Mud…24/7

Suck’n Mud…24/7

Where You ARE: You wake up to a messy house every morning. Your job makes you miserable. You love your kids/spouse/parents/etc. but you aren't sure if you like them... You weigh about 15 pounds more/less than you did at the start of Covid and it's starting to worry...

‘Did I Miss Something?’

‘Did I Miss Something?’

Missing Pieces Have you ever jumped into a conversation and thought...'Did I miss something?' You try to put the pieces together and understand what they are talking about, but you realize that you are missing some foundational detail of what is being discussed. And...

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part Two

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part Two

Earlier this month, we outlined the first two aspects of my Conflict Resolution CPR strategy: "Communication" and "Protect and Preserve Attachment." This week, I want to talk to you about the final element--the R. Recieve The R in Conflict Resolution CPR stands for...

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part One

Conflict Resolution CPR: Part One

Managing conflict is one of the most difficult things to do in a relationship. Most people don't know how to fight well, and there is a lot more to conflict resolution than simply 'winning' the argument. It is not normal to fight well! So if you want to work through...

Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycle

Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycle

Earlier this month we discussed our core beliefs, conditional assumptions, and automatic thoughts. These provide the framework for how we interpret everyday conversations and respond to the world around us. When we understand our body's natural response to these...

Resource Management: Relationship Fillers

Resource Management: Relationship Fillers

This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about relationship fillers!  Check out the blog posts from the last couple of weeks to get some background info on the reservoir and on personal fillers.  The key to...

Resource Management: Fillers

Resource Management: Fillers

This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about fillers!  Check out last week’s blog post here to get some background info on the reservoir.  The key Resource Management is about learning how to run our lives so...

Resource Management: The Reservoir

Resource Management: The Reservoir

This month we are focusing on helping you with Resource Management, and this week is specifically about the reservoir!  I’m going to focus all my content (social media, podcast, and blog) on the same topic for a month to help you get a better understanding of each...

Why CORE?

Why CORE?

CORE is one of my absolute favorite things to talk about! In a nutshell, CORE is the temperament (kind of like personality) model that I developed over years of research. It helps us understand the innate part of us that doesn’t change and motivates why we do the...

Conflict Resolution: Communicate

Conflict Resolution: Communicate

Dealing with and resolving conflict is easily one of the most difficult things for most relationships! Conflict is a crucial part of any relationship. The key to a healthy relationship isn’t avoiding conflict, it’s learning how to do conflict healthily.  CPR of...

Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycles

Rewiring the Brain: Cognitive Cycles

Last week, we talked about how the brain works. Now that we understand the basics of neurology, we can learn how to help our brains work healthily!  Brain/Body Interactive Cycle This is the basic process that occurs as we interact with the world. When something...

Neurology Made Easy: Upper and Lower Brain

Neurology Made Easy: Upper and Lower Brain

What is “Neurology Made Easy?” This topic is designed to help you understand a little bit more about how our brains work! The brain is an organ, just like any other. If we give our brains the things they need, barring rare cases of a chronic biological problem, or...

The Attachment Cycle

The Attachment Cycle

What is Attachment Theory? I wrote a previous blog post explaining attachment theory and the secure base relationship. Check it out here! To summarize briefly, attachment theory explains how we relate to the most important people in our lives.  Attachment is a Cycle...

Resource Management

Resource Management

What is Resource Management? Resource Management is the idea that we need to effectively and proactively manage our lives so that we maintain the necessary energy/emotional resources to contribute to our relationships and deal with the problems and setbacks that are...

Sexuality

Sexuality

Why is Sexuality Important? The goal and result of healthy sexuality in a marriage is closeness! Sex has the potential to bind us together. The way we handle sex influences the love in our relationship, and the love and safety in our relationship influences sex. Sex...